TranceBreakers Newsletter

 One of the simplest things I've ever taught a couple came out of a coaching session this week. I looked at them and said, "Don't fight over feelings." Then I paused. "And honestly... it's almost always feelings." Think about the last argument you had. Maybe someone said, "I feel like you don't listen to me." "I feel alone." "I feel criticized." "I feel like I'm not enough." The natural response is to defend yourself. "That's not true." "I never said that." "You're overreacting." "You're remembering it wrong." But what if they weren't presenting evidence? What if they were simply telling you what it felt like to be them in that moment? There's nothing to prove. There's nothing to win. There's just another human being letting you see the world through their eyes. That doesn't mean their feeling is the whole story. I...