TranceBreakers Newsletter

 I've been on the phone with hundreds of people over the past fifteen years who all made the same call. They wanted to come to Sedona to save their marriage. They'd done the research. They were ready to invest the time, the money, the emotional energy. They had hope. And then, near the end of the call, their voice would drop. And they'd tell me the truth. Their partner wouldn't come. Wouldn't read the book. Wouldn't try the counselor. Wouldn't take the call. Wouldn't even talk about it. And I would hear this question, sometimes spoken, sometimes just hanging in the silence between us: What do I do when I'm the only one trying? That question haunted me for years. Because I didn't have a good answer. Everything I knew about couples work assumed two willing people. Two people in the room. Two people holding the rope. And then one day I realized the rope was the whole problem. Picture a tug of war. Two people, pulling hard, leaning back, gri...

There's a kind of heartbreak that doesn't get talked about much. You're with someone you love. Someone who is genuinely good. Someone who shows up in real ways. And yet you keep walking away from conversations feeling unseen, unheard, and a little crazy. You start to wonder if you're asking too much. You're not. You're just shopping at the wrong store. Here's the picture I keep returning to. Imagine you walk into a hardware store hungry. You ask for a ham sandwich. The clerk looks at you like you've lost your mind. They don't sell sandwiches. They never have. But you keep going back, week after week, ordering the sandwich, getting more upset each time it doesn't arrive. That's what some relationships feel like. Not because the partner is bad. The hardware store is a good hardware store. He provides real things. Steadiness. Partnership. Logic. Reliability. Care expressed through fixing the leak and balancing the checkbook and showing up at eve...

  There is a question I've been sitting with lately: How do we know when we're facing a mindset challenge... and how do we know when something deeper is asking for our attention? As coaches, healers, and growth-minded people, we're trained to look inward. We ask: What belief is creating this? What fear is driving this? What story am I telling myself? What lesson is trying to emerge? These are powerful questions. But every now and then life offers a different answer. Sometimes the issue isn't a belief. Sometimes the issue isn't emotional. Sometimes the body is trying to get our attention. The Slow Fade Rarely does a person wake up one morning and announce: "Something is wrong." More often it begins quietly. The patience gets shorter. The joy feels harder to access. Small frustrations seem bigger than they used to. Things that once felt exciting now feel like obligations. Relationships become more difficult. Life starts to feel heavier. Most people assume th...

A simple practice for letting your feelings actually land. Most people don't pause long enough to let their own feelings land. We tell the story. We explain the situation. We give the context. We move quickly through the what happened and the why I'm upset and the what I should do about it . And the whole time, the feeling itself, the actual experience in the body, never gets a chance to be felt. So I've started using a phrase with my clients lately. Pause that for a second. Where do you feel that in your body? It's not stop . Stop sounds like put it away, we're done with that . Pause is different. Pause says we'll come back to the story in a minute. Right now, let's actually feel what's there. A Story About Grief That Wasn't About Death I did this with a long-term client recently. He'd been telling me about something that had been quietly bothering him for weeks. Surface story. Work frustration. Family logistics. I asked him to pause, dr...

 By Rick Reynolds | TranceBreakers  A client reached out to me recently. She's an intuitive, deeply self-aware woman who has done years of serious inner work. She had a question before booking a session. "I've already done many of these things. Is receiving it all in one document more powerful than what I've received separately over the years?" And then the real question underneath: "I'm having an internal struggle with some of the personality profiler things. I want it to be helpful, but I don't want it to put me in a box. I find some people use their behavior as an excuse — 'That's because I'm a Cancer.' Or 'I'm a Manifesting Generator so that's why I behave this way.' Do you think this is a good investment for me knowing I've done so much already?" She was right to ask. And her concern is one I hear often from the people who are most ready for this work. So let me answer it honestly — for her and for anyone ...

 By Rick Reynolds By Rick Reynolds After more than two decades working in hypnosis, transformational coaching, energy work, and spiritual healing, I’ve noticed something fascinating: People approach spirituality in wildly different ways. Some people experience spirituality through intuition. Some through psychology. Some through energy. Some through meditation, prayer, synchronicity, or mystical experiences. Some want structure and certainty. Others want freedom and exploration. And honestly? I’ve had personal experiences I cannot fully explain through logic alone. Moments that felt deeply meaningful. Profound. Even life changing. But over the years, something has become more important to me than trying to prove whether every spiritual experience is objectively “real.” What matters most to me now is this: Does the experience help someone reconnect with themselves in a healthy, grounded, empowering way? Or does it create more fear, dependency, confusion, or disconnection from their ...