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A simple practice for letting your feelings actually land. Most people don't pause long enough to let their own feelings land. We tell the story. We explain the situation. We give the context. We move quickly through the what happened and the why I'm upset and the what I should do about it . And the whole time, the feeling itself, the actual experience in the body, never gets a chance to be felt. So I've started using a phrase with my clients lately. Pause that for a second. Where do you feel that in your body? It's not stop . Stop sounds like put it away, we're done with that . Pause is different. Pause says we'll come back to the story in a minute. Right now, let's actually feel what's there. A Story About Grief That Wasn't About Death I did this with a long-term client recently. He'd been telling me about something that had been quietly bothering him for weeks. Surface story. Work frustration. Family logistics. I asked him to pause, dr...