Fill Me or Drain Me

I’m under the weather this week. Nothing serious. Just a cough that’s hung on, and a body asking me to slow down.

When your energy is low, you get very clear, very fast, about where you can spend it.

So I’ve been leaning on one simple question.

Does this fill me, or drain me?

That’s it. I ask it about an invitation. A phone call. A task on my list. Even a conversation I’m about to have in my own head.

This isn’t about being selfish. Some draining things still need doing. Paperwork drains me. I still do it.

But so much of what drains us isn’t necessary. It’s a should. Something we said yes to before we checked in with ourselves. A habit we never questioned.

And so much of what fills us keeps sliding to the bottom of the list. A walk. A nap. A long talk with someone who gets you. Sitting in the sun with a cat on your lap.

The holidays are coming. The shoulds are about to multiply.

So before you say yes to the next thing, pause. Take one breath. Ask the question.

Your body usually answers before your mind does. Notice whether your chest opens or tightens. Whether your shoulders drop or rise.

Then let that answer count.

You don’t have to fill every hour with joy. You just have to stop giving your best energy to things that leave you empty.

What’s one thing on your calendar this week that drains you, and that you could set down?

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